Being able to impress someone has become a very necessary talent in our daily lives. Whether you’re applying for a job in Kitchener, trying to get your future in-laws to warm up to you or dating in any shape or form, you usually do it by trying to impress the other conversational party. By impressing someone, you are advertising your good sides and showing that you know how to use them to beat challenges. Those who are capable of doing this are always more preferable, because these are the people anyone would want by their side during a challenge of their own. It’s why movies still work as well as they do.
But like in the movies, there’s a fine line that needs to be stuck to unless you want to flop. It’s different in the various cultures of the world from what point onwards one counts as a braggart, rather than a successful human being, but one thing is certain: no-one likes a braggart. Bragging won’t get you positive reviews anywhere, neither in jobs nor in website personals. So to avoid negative or insulting titulations by your bosses, peers and dates, you need to be able to straddle the fine line between impressive and over the top. This is made easier by being aware of the following:
Ever since we developed the ability to speak, humans have been telling and embelleshing experiences of others and their own. So much so that some stories that exist today could or couldn’t be true stories that have simply gone through so many re-tellings that it has become unclear. There are countless sensible reasons why this is done, like delivering a warning to children to behave, as it is done with fairy tales. It comes almost naturally to us to add a little detail here and a little exaggeration there when we are asked about something we’ve seen or experienced. You don’t only want to impress your audience – you want to entertain them. The problem is that because people are so used to hearing fantastic stories that there are some who can tell when you’re trying to sell something that doesn’t exist, at least not exactly in the way you’re describing it. This is why you sometimes view website personals and product reviews with a critical eye: Things can appear far too good to be true. There are some sites that have passed our test. Read our reviews of the top personals hookup sites and the reviews of adult personals to make your choice.
When you’re relieving something you’ve done to someone else, be aware of natural human tendency to exaggerate. Sometimes, even your own brain plays tricks on you by adding and removing facts from your memory. Keep in mind what makes you personally doubt something someone tells you and avoid making the same mistakes. To help yourself along a bit, you can try and take a neutral position in your own story, like something you’ve heard from someone else. To keep it from losing its reality, add in some of your own feelings, though be careful how much. While a date can be fine with more emotions, future bosses are more interested in your actions, rather than your inner monologue, and might even consider your emotional side a potential risk.
Understand the Nature of Flaws
It’s a very hard fact to admit to it sometimes, but everyone has flaws. Some may be bigger than the others, some are relatively permanent and others only short-lived, but it’s impossible to have none at all. However, because you want to impress someone, it’s always easier to skirt around your personal flaws, especially when all you have in that specific moment are words. Should your story also involve an opponent, it’s incredibly easy to give them the bad guy treatment and recall all their flaws, but none of their good qualities. To a certain extent, this isn’t very harmful. But in the unlucky case of the one you’re telling everything to ever meeting your opponent, you’ll quickly lose some, if not all, credibility. With everyone in the entire world just being a click away, that’s a very high risk to take for the sake of being impressive.
Not to mention that no matter with whom you want to enter a relationship with – platonic, romantic or professional – no-one likes it when you make a mistake and don’t admit to it. When you relieve an experience and give the sense of being the metaphorical innocent lamb, and do so over and over again, your conversational partner will start wondering if you are simply placing the fault in others and if at some point, they will be that other. No-one likes admitting to their own mistakes and flaws, but these are what make you human. They can also make you even more impressive, especially when you admit to them and in the same line managed to overcome them. Be careful though with whom you are in a conversation. Your date will most likely leave as soon as possible if you admit to being unfaithful sometime recently and no matter how much you honestly regret it, they’ll always have a lingering doubt.
Coming Across as Sincere
Despite the slightly misleading subtitle, this is not about pretending to be sincere, but actually showing this quality to someone you’re talking to. Sometimes, you experience something that, without any form of exaggeration, sounds far too fantastic to be true. There’s hardly a person who would believe it when told that someone survived taking an axe to the head. This is where sincerety comes in – and in the case of the axe to the head, maybe some proof too. There never is a guarantee that it works, since there are always those who doubt everyone and everything out of sheer principle, but it’s still an impressive and commendable quality that will convince those who don’t belong to the chronic doubters. The only thing that can convince these people that you’re being truthful is hard proof and even that can be turned around to being something made-up.
There’s no perfect recipe to convincing someone of your sincerety. But what helps is combining the two previous points and to stand by what you’re saying. You’ve gone through what you’re relieving in person, you know that it’s true, so show confidence in it. Don’t be afraid of looking someone in the eye or answering a question you didn’t expect. If you’re being truthful and sincere, then you know the answer and don’t have to start dodging the question while you’re trying to come up with an answer. Should something leave you speechless for a moment, take a breather to gather your thoughts and voice them. It helps greatly when you repeat some already told facts to prove that you didn’t make them up on the spot.
No matter when, where and to whom you’re reviewing an event in your life to – a date you met with the help of website personals or your potential future employer – keep in mind that not only are they human and therefore more capable of telling fact from fiction than you possibly suspect, but you are human as well. Be realistic, down to earth and admit to mistakes when you’re relieving one of your experiences. Always remember that no-one is perfect.